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"I can't do this" + Five Other Negative Thoughts You Need to Drop Right Now

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It's hard not to find a woman who hasn't struggled with low slow self esteem from time to time, and in a professional setting it can be even tougher to hold your own and feel confident. We tell ourselves some pretty awful things sometimes or let the toxic attitudes of others change our outlook or productivity, thus holding us back. Negative self thought can manifest in our work and prevent us from reaching our full personal and career related potential.

According to a study by CareerBuilder – 62% of managers say they are less likely to promote employees who have a negative or pessimistic attitude. So, if that alone isn't a reason to check your 'tude at the door and start smiling – I don't know what is. 

Let's make a pact to let these thoughts, words and attitudes go and never let them leave our lips or cross our minds:

“I can’t do this.”

Don’t let your negative mindset be what prevents you from trying new things or getting to where you want to go. Envision yourself doing it. You can. 

“Everybody here is better than me.”

You are where you are for a reason. You might be learning, but curiosity, passion and flexibility are good traits. Keep going and keep growing. 

 “This is how I’ve always done this.”

The world (and workplace) is always changing. Don't let yourself become rigid or tonedeaf to new ideas or ways of doing things. This only prevents you from growing and moving forward. 

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“I don’t matter.”

It's easy to feel small in a big place or find your place on the team. Your work is valued and important, you're definitely making a difference. If you don't believe that, it will be hard for others believe it too. 

“I don’t want to fail.”

Really, who wants to? Remember this every time you get scared about failing – No great success was ever achieved without failure. 

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“I hate this.”

Looking forward to better things is not synonymous with complaining about where you are now.

If you aren't happy – talk to your boss about changes you can make to enjoy more of your job or get out of there already and find something you love and that inspires you. Don't steal other people's joy and fufillment by spreading your bad attitude around and bringing people down.