The 3 Things You Need For a Healthy Friendship
Some friends of ours pictured above :)
I went on a “Friendship First Date” last week, as I’m trying to make a new friend or two. My fiance Andy and I feel like we have a lot of acquaintances, but only 2 or so friends. Those 2 friends are great, but we just feel like we have a little more room at our table, so to speak. With that in mind, I came across this thing about 3 things you should look for in a friendship. And I’m thinking these 3 things could be used to sort of take inventory of the friendships you already have… like are they serving you? Are they healthy?
So, here are the 3 things you need for a healthy friendship:
1) Positivity -- The friendship should feel good. It should bring more reward than pain. In fact, to maintain healthy relationships, it takes 5 positive interactions to counterbalance a single negative one.
2) Consistency -- Relationships need regular interaction and time spent together to help create a pattern of building memories.
3) Vulnerability -- Friendships need vulnerable sharing to get to know each other’s stories, hearts, and minds. If a friendship doesn’t feel good or just feels a little off… it could be that it’s lacking one of those 3 items… positivity, consistency, or vulnerability.
In addition to hosting mornings on B105.7, Sean Copeland is studying to be a relationship therapist.