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The 3 Words You Need to Say to Your Spouse Today

...and they're not "I love you."

Tune Up Tuesday… this is where on Tuesday mornings, I give you a nugget you can use to tune up your relationship.  Listen for it Tuesday mornings around 8:15 on B105.7.

 

The three words you need to say to your significant other, and it’s not “I love you.”  These words may be more powerful than that.  The three words… “you make sense.” 

Listening to your partner is important, but that’s only half.  The best couples hear each other and then they convey that they understand the other’s point of view.  Now, it’s important to note that understanding is not the same as agreeing.  You’re instead saying… you make sense, I get what you’re saying, I see why this matter’s to you!  And this sets the stage for your partner to feel heard and understood. 

Ellen says something to this effect, and I think it’s so true – “to be loved is great, but to be understood is profound.”

 

Photo credit: Getty Images / jacoblund

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