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How to Get What You Really, Really Want From Your Spouse

Tune Up Tuesday! I am a masters level relationship therapist in training and on Tuesdays I share some of what I’m learning with you for free. I call it Tune Up Tuesday as it’s a nugget you might be able to use to “tune up” your relationship.  Today, I’m sure your significant other is a lovely human, but they are terrible at this… and yet you ask them to do it all the time.

They are terrible at mind reading.  So, the growth edge for you is to share what you really, really want.  Be specific!  “I would love it if you could take care of dinner two nights a week” is much better than… “I need you to help out around the house more.”

The bottom line is – you very unlikely to get what you want in your relationship unless you ask for it.  So ask.  Nicely, of course.

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