If you’re winning, you’re losing. That’s this morning’s Tune Up Tuesday – a little nugget you may be able to use to “tune up” your relationship. In addition to hosting this morning show, I work in the afternoons as a therapist at Evolve Therapy in Greenwood, IN.
If you have a college team you’re be pulling for, you want them to win… of course. Winners and losers are part of what makes sports fun, but not so when it comes to your relationship. When you WIN a conflict in your relationship, it’s not cause for celebration… because if you’re a winner, it means your partner is a loser and that diminishes connection and empathy.
The healthiest relationships care more about solutions than declaring a winner. And the best solutions are the ones where the relationship wins!